Now I am posting my remix to marriage.
I posted about how sometimes we can allow our spouse to be apart of the greater family unit. Full disclaimer:
When we went to our marriage retreat this year and talked about the idea of prioritizing our spouse,my husband admitted sometimes he lumps me and the boys together on his priority list.
It was a bit of a downer to hear, but also I think a wake up call.
I think it's something many marriages experience and especially when having young children.
Add in one income and little local familial support and we haven't dated as much as we could or should even.
We allowed ourselves to "hold out" on one on one date nights until some family showed up in town, and then we ran hard to the nearest restaurant.
Dates get expensive y'alllll.
That being said; marriage is so worth it.
My husband is so worth it.
My time with him alone is so refreshing.
Like the cool drink of water he is. Or a warm drink of coffee as the case may be.
I mean check it:
This year we talked about how we missed going on 'fun dates.' We used to take trips and adventures, and this year we are working to make it happen again
While dinner talking is the best for sure and I am always my husband's number one choice to take to the movies, I love it when we mix it up.
LOVE IT!
This year we went to the pool just the two of us. We used our pool passes to talk in line and go on the adult slides as many times as we wanted together. No tagging each other in and out of the pool while the other wrangles floaties and children.
Then we grabbed a beer at cool local beer bar. Never been to a beer bar? They have a crazy amount of beer on tap and in bottles. They often brew a few of their own. To keep costs low, they allow you to bring in take out or have pizza delivered. So because we already had pool passes and we date night swapped with friends I think we had like a $12 date.
We even had time to go home after the pool and change before going to get a quick drink and talk.
I got wear a dress and heels, and he got have a funky beer like the craft beer aficionado he is.
Getting fancy is my favorite and getting fancy for my favorite is even better.
We tried to get pictures when we got our friends house and they are maybe the most real parenting pictures ever because our kid had just started crying when we walked up.
Unfortunate.
Other dates we have done in the past or are planning to do this year:
We went to Pieces a board game bar in Soulard. We are board game aficionados as well, and it was just the fun kind of date we love. Games. drinks. Fun.
Clearly,we do also enjoy an adult beverage or two when we go out.
Tonight we are going to a concert at Fair Saint Louis just the two of us. This morning after watching Great Day Saint Louis, (old man alert) my husband tried to tell me it would be great for us to go with the boys. I reminded him of our fun date night plan and we continued forward in our resolve.
This year we have attended a trivia night together which something we have not done in a very long time. My husband is a trivia master. Handsome + intelligent. I am one lucky lady.
We also did go to karaoke with some friends, but I will be real. That was not my husband's top date night. You should if you live in the Lou, check out Living Social in Maryland Heights, there are lots of other fun things there to do. Great night out!
We have plans to go to Meet Me in St Louis at the Muny. We love musicals and I'm hopeful we will have a little pre-picnic under the trees with a sweet looking charcuterie. Recently we went on the trolley in down town Saint Charles. I showed my boys the Trolley song from Meet Me in Saint Louis, and I am getting amped.
We also have Six Flags passes. When my family is in town we are planning to drop the kids off with my family and go ride every ride we want to. As many times as we want. I am so excited!
We are also planning what one of my mentors call a tree day. We meet under the trees and cast vision for what's next, get on the same page in parenting and enjoy God's creation.
As we continue to dream up date nights for the two of us, I will keep you updated. We are also list makers and we rank our top date of the year. Every year. So I will let you know which ones ends up in the running.
How are you taking steps to remix your marriage this year?
Ven & Alex
THE ROMERO REMIX
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